A couple of years ago my mom started working with an elderly woman named Paula Stringer. Paula had a memory loss illness, Alzheimer’s, a disease more than 5 million Americans live with. My mom was working part-time with her while she was also working part-time with insurance business. Paula had her long-term memory but had very bad short-term memory loss. My mom was only helping her with transportation to and from doctor’s appointments and assisted her with meals but most importantly she was her companion. Paula’s family lived out-of-town so my mom became close friends with her because they started to spend more time together. As Paula’s illness began to advance she began to forget things that happened on a daily basis. Several other helpers were needed to help Paula when my mom wasn’t able to. Paula began to get more confused as other helpers were coming and going. Even though Paula was having more memory loss and sometimes not even recognize her helpers she never forgot who my mom was and would have confidential talks with my mom. She would sometimes get weary because Paula would say things that didn’t make any sense. My mom would get concerned because she thought this job was going to be too hard to handle as Paula’s illness advanced. My mom began to pray and ask God for guidance. She did not want to stop helping Paula but she knew her illness would one day take her life and she was going to need to move on. My mom enjoyed helping Paula and started to consider working as a full-time caregiver so she prayed about that also. It didn’t take long to get an answer to her prayer.
One day Paula was having a serious conversation with my mom in her room. The sun was shining in from the bedroom window. As Paula was comparing my mother to the other workers she said something to my mom she won’t ever forget, “Why are you here?” My mom was caught off guard and could reply the only way she thought to, “Well I’m here to help you.” Then Paula said, “I know that, but with all your talents I just don’t understand why you are doing this.” My mom could tell that Paula was really speaking from her heart and sincerely knew what she was saying. This really opened my mom’s eyes and knew that she needed to take advantage of the hand she was dealt. Sometimes we don’t know what we are capable of until someone helps us realize.
My mom has always been a hard worker for my family. I remember the days when she would go into her office, I would just wait for her day to be done so she could come home and be with us. Even after that her day wasn’t done, there was always something that my brother or my sister or I had to do in the evening. Whether it was cheering for a volleyball game or a baseball game or even just going to the skate park, my mom never stopped moving. She always seemed so stressed out because she worked 8 to 10 hours a day and then only had a few hours of the day left to spend with us. Then she had to do it all over again the next day. Sure, it was a good job with good pay, but she wasn’t doing what she loved. She was always helping someone build their dream, but she wasn’t building her own. She’s even drilled that saying into my brain, it’s really inspired me to have freedom and control in my own life.
My mom helped me realize that just because you’re making money, that doesn’t mean that you’ll be happy, especially if you don’t enjoy what you’re doing. Your career shouldn’t just be trading your time for money. You should enjoy what you do and you will never have to work again. Life is too short to have a job that you don’t enjoy and have to spend so much time doing that job. My mom was in the insurance industry for many years and even though she did not enjoy it she stayed in that industry because she was getting paid well. She thought that if she opened her own insurance business instead of working for someone else that it would help her enjoy it more. Things didn’t go as planned and she was wrong, and she isn’t afraid to admit that to anyone she knows.
She believes her calling was to be in the health industry and she kept putting it on the back of her head because she didn’t want to hear any negative things about her changing her career path. She finally made the decision that people were not going to understand her journey because it is for her and not for them. She knew that the first step towards getting somewhere was deciding that she was not going to stay where she was, after all, the first step is always the hardest. If we were meant to stay in one place we would have roots instead of feet. We aren’t plants, are we? My mom finally took her first step and has enrolled in a massage therapy school so she can get licensed and begin to use her gifts and talents to help others heal their body the natural way. She knows God’s gift to her are her talents and her gift back to God is how she uses her talents. She has always had an entrepreneurial spirit but she still had to go one step further and be the right kind of entrepreneur. She knows that a career change at this point in her life will not be easy but she also knows that if she wants something she has never had before then she has to do something that she has never done.
But why should a career change be so hard at this point in her life? Why do we let society mold us so much? If we let this happen, we become a product of our environment instead of making our environment be our product. I still haven’t had a job yet, but I have plenty of friends who’ve already started on that. Most of them hate their jobs too. I can understand why. They have to balance school and work and sometimes sports. Some of these friends soon see a drop in their grades after they start work. After they get a taste of money, their taste buds just crave more. Money soon becomes more important than grades and almost anything else. Money becomes their life.They barely have any control of their lives anymore. After school they either have practice or work, then on the weekends they either have practice or work, and on days off they either have practice or work. Life becomes laid out for them, they just have to go through the motions. What’s the point of that? Where’s the joy in life?
Going through the motions has become a habit for all of us a one point or another, whether it’s showing up for school, work, or dinner at 6 with the family. We can get tired of this quickly (especially if it’s the same meal every night), so we have to find the joy in those motions we once had before they became routine. There were reasons that we started doing the same things everyday, sometimes we just have to find that reason again.
When I am older I don’t want to be stuck in an office wasting away my life with the same plan for each and everyday. I don’t think that’s the reason that we’re here to live. There are so many opportunities that we have to keep ourselves entertained and loving life. Being glued to a chair in an office with a job no one would want for any reason other than money doesn’t sound like it’s worth it. Waking up and being excited for work isn’t a common feeling around the world.
A survey done by CareerBliss showed some of the most hated jobs that someone could have. After looking through these it is safe to say about half of them require a large amount of desk work. These workers probably wake up with no excitement for their upcoming day. Without any motivation for the day, plenty of workers could be holding back their employer, and keeping them from making the money they desire. Often people will get opportunities that could be life changing, but without any motivation the opportunities will be pointless.
America is supposed to be the land of opportunity, right? Well we don’t have to like every chance we’re given, do we? Plenty of Americans would agree with me on this.Monster.com and a company named Gfk showed that almost half of the nation hated their jobs in 2013. People from other countries come here to America to have a better life than they did before, but that doesn’t mean they won’t still suffer once they get here. Not everyone gets the opportunity they once thought they were getting.
It has been said that if you have a job you love, you won’t work a day in your life. Anyone can live a better life if they follow this and really take it to heart. People like video game designers, for example, they’re doing what they love. They get to create their product, test it, finalize it, share it with the world, and then play it some more.
Those that are more “outdoorsy” may be better suited for becoming a park ranger. Preserving nature or history, possibly protecting animals, and being outside and getting paid for it? That sounds like someone’s dream job.
People finding their dreams jobs isn’t something that happens often. According to a study done by Gallup, there are nearly twice as many people in the world that are unhappy with their jobs than those that are happy with their jobs. It also showed that nearly 90% of people worldwide “are emotionally disconnected from their workplaces and less likely to be productive.”
Plenty of my relatives have had a job where they work inside of an office. Most of them now aren’t working in the same situation anymore. They all used to dread going to work everyday, being stuck in the same place from 9 AM to 5 PM, and I can understand why. I already spend so much time at school, why would I want to finish school and just look forward to sitting down for another 8 hours everyday?
There are jobs out there that people absolutely love doing. Firefighters always seem to be great people, don’t they? Maybe it’s because they’re actually excited and motivated for that Monday morning that everyone else seems to loathe (pweekes). Firefighters have plenty of freedom, especially with the hours they work, which vary depending on the department. Becoming a firefighter isn’t an easy task though, it is a physically and mentally draining experience. The people who accept this way of life know what they’re sacrificing, but they also know that their reward is greater than the risk.
Some jobs aren’t worth the amount of effort that gets put into them.Corporate executives can expect a large paycheck, but there’s a lot of people they have to keep happy and it isn’t painless. This position doesn’t seem like one that a lot of people could handle. Maybe it’s just the big business side of it that makes a career like this unappealing to me, or maybe it seems like another job where people go through the motions and don’t expect much more from life. With a career like this I don’t see much motivation other than the money that comes along with it.
So many people just go to school so they can get a high paying job. But I don’t think that money is everything. Sure, it can help you buy a lot of things, but if you’re always working what’s the point? I don’t think that we are supposed to spend years and years in school so that we can spend years and years working in some lame office. Even now as a teenager my friends are already getting jobs that they hate. I see them and I feel sorry for them because they already have it pounded in their mind that they have no say in their future, they’ve already accepted something they think is their fate. People need to open up their minds about their future even if society has already set the norm.
Teenagers may already be opening up their minds. Teenage employment seems to be falling and during the summer it has declined over the past few years. I see how shocking this information is. This generation won’t have the same amount of work experience as those of the past. The teens that do find jobs may get ahead of the curve because they will have an idea of what they want to do and what they don’t want to do.
Life is the longest thing we experience, so we should enjoy it and not be wasteful. There are so many things we can do and look forward to, and we can’t cage ourselves. We have to live a little and take chances when they’re presented to us. For all we know, we might not get tomorrow, so we shouldn’t let anything get in the way of our happiness and what we want most out of life.
Adams, Susan. “Unhappy Employees Outnumber Happy Ones By Two To One Worldwide.” Forbes.com. Forbes , 10 Oct 2013. Web. 27 Mar 2014. <http://www.forbes.com/sites/susanadams/2013/10/10/unhappy-employees-outnumber-happy-ones-by-two-to-one-worldwide/>.